Approaching her 30th birthday, every woman overcomes a rather difficult period, which in astrological language is called the "Return of Saturn". What is it, if explained in simple language, for us women?
Alexandra Belova:Most of the girls I meet at work first came to me when they were between the ages of 28 and 31. If we summarize the “complaints” that were the most relevant, the picture will be something like this: women feel that everything, as they say, “began to fall apart”, for some reason they cannot establish their personal life, a career does not develop - they cannot get a promotion or get a job. a similar position after dismissal. Women feel that all life chances have already been exhausted and they urgently need to jump into the last carriage - to give birth to a child, to get married. And here are the next doubts: is that partner nearby? And all these questions are asked by very pretty, looking after themselves, competently speaking girls, who have more than one education and experience in relationships behind them. These girls do not have anything in common, except for one thing:a certain age.
In astrological terms, this age period is called "the return of Saturn." If translated into human language - growing up. Everyone leaves childhood not with obtaining a passport or permission to buy alcohol, but when, in the area of their thirties (the exact dates are shown by a personal horoscope), they pass an exam for responsibility, discipline, willingness to take responsibility for their actions, and reap the fruits of past actions. A strict but fair examiner comes to a certain area of life, which may be related to work, money, relationships, education, family, friends (the list goes on) and assesses the degree of preparation for the subject.
Unlike sessions at a university, preparation took the previous thirty (plus or minus) years, and you need to summarize now. It was possible, like careless students, to sleep, run to the park, have fun instead of lectures, then a deuce in the exam is provided. If they pored over their homework (read, were, without waiting for the summing up, patient, persistent, careful, conscientious, reliable, responsible, executive), then the check can make you worry, but it will not lead to serious losses, or maybe, on the contrary, - reward. The more doing nothing, ignoring the subject, the student allowed, the more difficult the session was. Excellent diligent students are also not immune from nerves, but at the end they received a positive assessment.
Are there any specific manifestations of this period, or does everyone have their own personal forced exit from the "comfort zone"?
Very often at this time, a point is put at work, which did not allow to fully reveal, to express oneself. The mildest option is when the company's office moves to another city and it is impossible to continue remotely. More of a stressful case is the employer's dismissal. When we start digging deeper, it turns out: I did not particularly like the work, the girl went to work, was engaged in it by inertia. Or, objectively, it would be unfair to blame the management - there were flaws that were incompatible with the performance of duties. Another version: the chosen sphere was clearly not to my taste, and I had to force myself to wake up in the morning in order to go to work not at all like a holiday. Serfdom was abolished in our country long ago, everyone can choose an activity to their liking. Accordingly, the choice of another occupation becomes on the agenda.
That is, the "Return of Saturn" is an unpleasant phenomenon, but subsequently leading to positive changes?
On rare occasions, Saturn still gives gifts. It is as difficult to get them as an automatic five from the strictest professor. If you lived by a vocation - at this moment there may be a promotion. From school, were famous for their rationality in the use of little things, which were given for pocket expenses, and later, more substantial receipts of money? There will be a strengthening of the financial position. It is worth taking a closer look at what the surrounding reality makes a gift, and what limits it. For example, before they only dreamed of going to the islands, but now this desire could be embodied in reality - it means that they deserve it. In the case of financial difficulties, it is a clear sign that the money was handled incorrectly, the wrong strategy was chosen to use the resources at your disposal. If, on the contrary,have become a sought-after specialist and earn more than ever, you can teach master classes on how to settle in this profession. All successes and failures are definitely not accidental, but the result of all previous years. It is worth remembering the key events, the difficulties that you encountered, because the "consolidation of the material" will surely repeat itself in twenty-nine and a half years. During this time, Saturn will make another turn in your horoscope and will definitely return to the topic that he paid attention to in the region of his thirtieth anniversary. If earlier they could dance on the dance floor until 6 in the morning, and now from much less exertion you feel pain in the spine, then this very topic will make itself felt around sixty. Is the topic of relationships becoming the most acute? You know in advance when similar events will take place, namely,in twenty-nine and a half years.
One gets the feeling that only women can experience the "Return of Saturn". Is this phenomenon happily bypasses men?
Men are also going through this time, but much softer. We no longer see a boy, but a husband. And, by the way, the right young people are getting married for the first time during this period. Society dictates to a man the need to take responsibility not only for himself, but also for his loved ones, and now he, in most cases, is ready to take this responsibility.
So, for men, this is more a period of qualitative and, most importantly, positive changes, and for women, a kind of obstacle course?
I do not know of a single girl who would describe the return of Saturn as a joyful, emotionally uplifting period. When she herself was undergoing these transformations, in the most acute period she could not sleep at night from experiences. A well-known fact from psychology: the emotion that accompanies growing up is sadness.
The closeness of his thirties is a strict auditor, he does not set the goal of “failing” at the exam, but he will not give out gingerbreads just like that, everything is entirely fair. If you are responsible, disciplined, know how to handle your time, conscientious, stable, competent (and these are the qualities for which Saturn is responsible), then you can gain, not lose.
Does Saturn influence couples, families?
Many married couples get divorced during this period, moreover, at the initiative of the wife. Minimum program: the beautiful half of the union begins to experience coldness and doubt their feelings. It is very easy to part, but it is impossible to start a new relationship in which the girl will be happy. Therefore, three times think about whether to pack your suitcases for the heat of the moment. Of course, if the relationship has outlived its usefulness, this is a great opportunity to put an end to it.
It is highly undesirable to enter into an official marriage on the return of Saturn. Conversations that a stamp in a passport “does not mean anything” is not true, it even means very much. It captures a specific moment in time. And the time at which the business is started half determines its success. Such alliances create the feeling of a heavy load to be carried. If marriage is unbearable, wait a little, then the family will already have a chance to take place.
And yet 30 years is such an age when, willy-nilly, you begin to think about starting a family, having a child, moreover, there is a desperate fear of not being in time, and then waiting for some kind of return … Aren't there too big risks?
Often, girls have a mood in the background that now is the last opportunity - a chance, after which it will be too late to make important decisions, life will carry you to the margins of what is happening. Not at all, I assure you that this is just a break. Imagine that you have come to a store, pulling a pen, but it does not give in. Look up at the sign and notice that you are trying to get inside during the break. You have to wait a while, and the doors will open again hospitably. You can be convinced of this yourself by talking with girlfriends who have already left this period. They are much more fun than when parting with pink glasses. I know more than one charming girl who, at twenty-nine and a half, was a maiden in sorrow, and after thirty she straightened her back and gladly stepped into a new period of her life.
About the expert:
Alexandra Belova is a practicing astrologer and tarologist. After receiving her first higher education, Master of Psychology, began the practice of consulting, she has been studying astrology for more than ten years.
Personal site of Alexandra Belova: astrologmoscow.ru
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